Waring Content Is Not Nice and Has Bad Language, But Someone Has to Say It

I believe I have mention this before, about my baby sister's train wreck of a marriage to a PFC Tom McCreary. And in truth this post is mainly for them, which I know I'll get some ugly emails and messages  but, hey, the truth hurts, doesn't it. Now they'll see what they look like when they act like high schoolers instead of adults.

Within the year he cheated on her with an ex. But his family, who they were living with because she was the one working to support them while he collected a $400 check a month for being a weekend warrior, treated her as if she was the one that cheated.

She got over it and worked things out while doing her best to ignore his pathetic family, all because she loved him. Before he left for his deployment, he started sending the ex money, while Steph was recovering from a medical conditon and couldn't work. Then told her that he was done, but then changed his mind and got his act together enough to finish the paper work so that the military saw her as his wife. (Which he never turned in instead Steph did later.) But before his plane took off his mother did this whole pathetic bit about how Steph would spend every last dime of his pay check and demanded that he take his debit card with him and not add Steph to his back account, instead add her. (She must not know that it's her son's responsibility to support his wife.)

Here's the part most don't know. At this point she was living with me in N.C. and he is listed at Active Duty, but he wasn't supporting her, which the military really looks down on those that don't support their family. He is receiving an Active Duty pay check and BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing), and she was looking for a job to support herself and and trying to save the money to file for divorce. Now it gets a little fuzzy whether they were together or not, since it changed every five minutes. But she was fighting with him and his SGT to setup an allotment to support her, and she wasn't asking for much, but he decided to give her enough to show off that he was supporting her. Now Army regulations say that a soldier must support their spouse and family unless the spouse makes more then they do or the marriage ends.

By the time Tom returned home on R&R Steph had received two payments, and they had decided to stick it out and make things work. Now this whole time his family has been making her life a living hell and starting fights with my mother and other sisters, and Steph was back in T.X. living with my mother. Tom's first day back he picked her up and took her to a hotel, then dropped her back off at my mother's house the next, to not be heard from for days. When she did finally hear from him, he was at the ex's and told her that he had filed the divorce papers and she would be receiving them to sign soon and that he stopped the allotment. She couldn't wait to sign them, she was tired of his crap and didn't deserve to be treated that way any longer.

A few weeks of her waiting to sign the papers his family decided that the divorce wasn't enough and that they wanted more. His family doesn't live far from my mother, they actually live up the road from them. So one day when Steph was coming home with my PREGANENT sister, Sam, one of them decided to try and run them off the road. The cops were not called. A few days later, Sam was in a car accident, no one was hurt, when her tires came off the car. Sometime during the night SOMEONE had removed and loosen the bolts on her tires. Since there is no evidence to point fingers at anyone the cops were not called again. But come on, it's not that hard to put two and two together. It wasn't enough for them to get what they wanted or to torture Steph, they had to go and endanger both her and Sam's life along with a innocent unborn child.

Now, a few days ago Steph received a call from Tom, who admitted that he never filed the divorce papers. Mind you that he has not supported Steph for a couple of months now with the claim they were getting a divorce, and his SGT allowed him to stop the allotment, instead of following regulations. If you don't know the regulation or understand it then read this and this.

Now after the little car accident case his family realized it was time to grow up, or so we thought. But apparently they have grown bored with torturing and stealing from their own family (from what the rumors say). And really my family should be flattered that we can hold their attention without doing anything.

On Thursday Steph received a message from Tom's mother, Lisa, and these are her words exactly as my sister received them: “Stephanie I tell u one thing u tell ur mom anytime she wants to stomp my ass I am ready because I read ur blog so tell unless she can back her shit up don't run her fucking mouth about me.” And I am sorry for the language, but that shows how this woman acts. Now as far as her comment about my mother's blog, I have to laugh at the woman. My mother's blog is not linked to her Twitter or Facebook and someone would either have to get the address from her or actually Google my mother's name to find the blog. To have to actually go and Google my mother's name to find her blog and then go through years of post to find one that even mentions her son or the name “Lisa” is really pathetic. On top of that my mother never mentions anyone's full name and her post about Tom are true, and are way nicer then mine, I read my mother's blog and not once does she mention anything about his mother or that she wants to kick her ass. The posts that mention Lisa are about my uncle's ex, so to take a post that just mentions the name “Lisa” and turn it into something it's not is just really sad.

Once again this post is for the McCreary family, and I have to apologize to my loyal readers, not his family, that it had to come to this, but sometimes things have to be said in order to feel better and ignore the idiots.

And to the McCreary family, it really is flattering that you will pay this much attention to my family that you can just ignore your own. But it's pathetic that you have to stoop this low and endanger an innocent unborn child. Or that you still have yet to find something new to do other then make yourself look like the worst people on the plantet. Now if you will please grow up you might actually find the time to fix that spelling of yours or help your adult and married children create their own life and move out. And we will go back to being the bigger ones and ignore your pathetic attempts to flatter us. Oh, one more thing, I hope you have a wonderful day because I will.  

Been A Very Busy Month

This month has been really busy for me. Fist Sean came home for his R&R, which btw was the first time in his 4 deployments. And then we completely cleaned the garage, which still had boxes full of stuff from where we moved in here 3 years ago. And then we had to set up a guest room for my baby sis, Steph, to stay with us while Sean is gone and she tries to figure out what’s going on with her life. Not only that but I have been working off and on, on my final project for this graphic design class that I am in, which is due today, and I still have a lot of work to get done on it.

My two weeks with Sean was great and I loved every min of it. He would get up early and stay up late to play his little alt Rogue before I got up and cooked and we started cleaning. Btw my husband isn’t one of those WoW addicts that level alts, he spends all his time on his main, Dlog (85 Worgen Rogue). We went and got the car done; he talked me into letting him get a tablet so he won’t have to take his laptop through security, there is a really funny story to this. He also wanted to go to the movies a couple of times and out to eat. But the best night we had together was the one right before he left where we went to the fair; my sis was here for that too.  He left the 21^st.

My sister got her the 19^th, she was originally going to be here til Sean got back and spend most of her husband’s deployment here so she didn’t have to deal with his family. But then he pulled something and she was talking divorce, but now he claims he doesn’t want a divorce and wants her back. But he won’t emit to doing anything wrong, even though she has proof. I could understand them getting back together if he would just emit to the wrong and apologize so that they can take a step forward. But as long as he is not willing to do that then there is no reason to take that step. Of course it won’t mean much if someone has to tell him.

Now that Sean is gone and my sis is settled in post will become more regular again. 

Why Get Married In The First Place?!?

So I mention before how my sister’s in-laws are pretty much the in-laws everyone fears they will get. I was lucky my in-laws are really great. But this isn’t about me it’s about my baby sister, Stephanie. She married not long ago and within the first couple of months Tom, her husband, cheats on her. Now I don’t care what she says or everyone else, if he cheated on her so soon then he should have never married her and she need to leave him.

So I get a text message from her today and she wants to know what should she do, and she started to tell me how she is watching him as he and his ex’s mom are talking about how he is going to do something to screw up the marriage and go back to her daughter. Now this is the same girl he cheated on her with at the beginning of the marriage. I told her once again to cut her loses, that he isn’t worth it. He never stuck up for her and told her that he wasn’t going to send her a damn dime while he is deployed because she moved their stuff out of his mother’s house, who was already going to kick her out the moment he left for training.

She tools screenshots of it all and I’m reading it all and I see a part that the mom wrote saying that Steph said something about her daughter and Tom’s reply was something along the lines of no one talks about the people he cares about. But yet he married Steph but yet he doesn’t care about her enough to stand up for her, but will for this other girl. Now if that isn’t a red flag what is. I didn’t even need to read the part where a divorce was mention. And the funniest thing about this was at the beginning he tells her that his wife might ask about these messages and to ignore her. So what does that tell you? He isn’t worth the time to even cry for.

Girls who stay with guys like this get on my nerves. If he loved you and he wanted to be with you, really wanted to be with you, then he would never have done it. I thank god everyday for finding someone as great as my husband, Sean, and I pray that my sisters find someone just as great. 

Music to Calm the Soul

So life has been well a disaster area for the past couple of days. My so call uncle is wishing my mother death, guess he will never grow up. Then I learn he is sleeping with someone I have called a sister since I was about 10. And on top of that my baby sister is getting hell from her in-laws and the same so called sister. I'm really just ashamed of sharing the same blood as my uncle, and disgusted that I ever called her a sister. Well I'm trying to help my baby sis get away from the hell that has been created for her by the in-laws. She will be leaving in three weeks to come stay with me for a while so that I can finally go back to Texas and visit family and not have to pay too much for the animals and not have to worry about them, which I'm going to do no matter what. Their my kids.

But things aren't all bad. Sean will be home soon for two weeks, and I can't wait, feels like a year since he left. I know his cat Dip will be very welcoming, might and figure a way to sneak her back with him.

Anyway with all the stress that is going on the best way to calm yourself is with music, and I happened to actually logon to MySpace and found this new band that their debut album just hit stores and fell in love with the first song I heard, and rushed off to iTunes to get it. Icon For Hire, they sound alot like Paramore but I think her voice is better and the lyrics too.